A few weeks ago we had an early Thanksgiving dinner with my in-laws since we wouldn’t be able to get together on the actual holiday. After dinner, my son and I went out to the (otherwise quiet) den and while he played with Legos, I perused a holiday catalog that promised a happy, stress-free holiday. What an amazing 3 minutes- this never happens.
The catalog depicted a beautifully decorated Thanksgiving table with everyone around it smiling. My peaceful moment was short-lived and ultimately interrupted by cries from a baby who needed me. The irony- hilarious. I laughed aloud.
I have to check myself. We all do. The reality is: the food won’t be perfect and the company won’t be either! It’s so important to manage your expectations. We all have a tendency to idealize the holidays; we want it to be a beautiful, magical time. The reality is that no one’s holiday meal or event is catalog-perfect (okay, at least mine isn’t!). Uncle Ted may need to comment on the political climate, Aunt Peg’s question may be passive aggressive, and the kids might be a little unruly (off their schedules, tired, etc.).
Expect imperfections, but if you look for the beautiful moments, you will likely find them.
If you are struggling this holiday season (so many do!), feel free to contact me.