Most of us are pretty hard on ourselves. We wouldn’t dare say to others what we tell ourselves. Our tough inner-critic is often the result of our shame and perfectionism. Many of my clients are high-achieving perfectionists. I often ask, “What would it look like if you were to infuse some self-compassion into this situation?”…
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Social Media: Bad For Your Mental Health
I talk with my clients about this regularly. Social media creates anxiety. A few years back when I worked full-time at a university, I would often eat lunch in the dining hall. I couldn’t believe how many students sat together but had their heads down, eyes glued to their phones. This article says it well:…
Update on the “College Mental Health Crisis”
Research shows that anxiety, depression, feelings of loneliness, and suicidal thoughts among college students have significantly increased in the last 9 years. (I have heard of “wait lists” at many college counseling centers in my area.) College can be a tough time for many reasons. Know a college student? Invite them over for a home-cooked…
Holidays: Check Yourself
A few weeks ago we had an early Thanksgiving dinner with my in-laws since we wouldn’t be able to get together on the actual holiday. After dinner, my son and I went out to the (otherwise quiet) den and while he played with Legos, I perused a holiday catalog that promised a happy, stress-free holiday….